Dealing with Adult ADHD
Last Wednesday I sat down at 9am to make a list. It was a good list – three client calls, email responses I’d been putting off, and picking up my prescription before the pharmacy closed at 6. Wrote it on a yellow Post-it because those are the only ones I can ever find.
By 11, I was reading about Spencer Silver, the 3M chemist who accidentally invented Post-it adhesive in 1968. Don’t ask me how that happened. The list was still stuck to my monitor when I finally looked up. Hadn’t touched a single item.
That’s basically adult ADHD in one story. Knowing what you should do. Being perfectly capable of explaining it to someone else. My sister asked me for organization advice last month and I gave her like ten good ideas in five minutes. But applying them to my own life? Ha.
Vyvanse helps when I remember to take it. The timers and apps help on good days. Under all that though, there’s this tiredness that won’t quit. From constantly negotiating with my own brain. From texting my friend Mike “be there in 10” when I’m actually 25 minutes away. From catching myself scrolling Twitter at 1am when I have a 7am meeting.
Started reading philosophy books a while back. Old stuff – Seneca, Lao Tzu, Buddha. Turns out people have been wrestling with chaotic minds for millennia. Way before anyone invented the acronym ADHD or decided it needed Ritalin.
Here’s something odd: the idea of a “normal” brain is pretty modern. Before the 1900s or so, philosophers just accepted that attention wandered. Thoughts showed up uninvited. Focus was hard. Part of the human deal.
They weren’t looking for diagnoses or pills. They were trying to figure out how to work with what they had. Different project entirely.
You’re not the first to carry this
Voices Across Time
Found four thinkers across different eras who had something useful to say about uncooperative minds. None of them had psychiatrists or prescription refills. They figured things out anyway.
“It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste much of it. Life is long enough, and a sufficiently generous amount has been given to us for the highest achievements if it were all well invested.”
Seneca — Letters to Lucilius
Seneca wasn’t writing about ADHD directly – he was writing to his friend Lucilius about life in general. But time leaking through cracks? Hours vanishing while you wonder where they went? Sounds familiar.
Those moments when I actually manage to focus – locked in, no distractions, productive – those matter. Probably more than they would for someone who can summon focus at will. Because mine cost more to achieve.
“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.”
Lao Tzu — Chinese philosopher, 6th century BCE
Tao Te Ching
Rivers don’t try to push themselves to the ocean. They just flow around whatever’s blocking them. The harder I shove my brain toward something, the more it pushes back. Law of nature apparently.
What if the jumping around isn’t a bug? What if it’s how my brain gets things done, just along a stranger route than expected?
“The mind is everything. What you think, you become. But the mind is also restless and hard to control—like a wild elephant that must be trained with patience.”
Buddha — Dhammapada
Wild elephant – yeah, that tracks. Not “mildly distracted” but a full elephant that desperately needs to check out something over there right now no wait actually this thing instead.
The answer isn’t beating the elephant. It’s training with patience. Over and over. An elephant with this much energy and curiosity has advantages. They’re just harder to see when you’re frustrated.
Epictetus was enslaved for part of his life. He understood things you genuinely can’t control. His whole point: figure out what’s yours to change and what isn’t. That’s it.
Brain chemistry isn’t my choice. Can’t will my way into neurotypical focus. But how I deal with frustration? Whether I see myself as defective or just different? That’s mine to decide.
“Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens. Some things are up to us and some things are not.”
Epictetus — Greek Stoic, 50 – 135 CE
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What connects them all
What They All Understood
Four people, two thousand years of distance between them, same basic conclusion: fighting who you are is tiring and tends to fail. Wisdom that old has to be onto something.
This isn’t surrender. It’s resource allocation. Brain works how it works – statement of fact, not moral judgment. Energy spent wishing otherwise could go toward finding what actually helps.
Strategies matter. Support matters. But the baseline truth: not broken, just wired different. Running different firmware, you could say.
Before you go
A Moment for You
Tomorrow my brain will still wander off. The boring-but-necessary tasks will still feel disproportionately hard. I’ll probably still struggle to explain why.
Right now, though – maybe it’s fine. Smart people throughout history looked at scattered minds and saw humans, not failures. Something in that.
Plenty of people have carried this before. Plenty will after.
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