{"id":4167,"date":"2026-05-17T08:50:20","date_gmt":"2026-05-17T07:50:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bmgrb.com\/omgaan-met-moeilijke-oudere-ouders\/"},"modified":"2026-06-03T14:41:38","modified_gmt":"2026-06-03T13:41:38","slug":"omgaan-met-moeilijke-oudere-ouders","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bmgrb.com\/nl\/omgaan-met-moeilijke-oudere-ouders\/","title":{"rendered":"Omgaan met Moeilijke Oudere Ouders"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id='av_section_1'  class='avia-section av-av_section-b5004e43c8685138fe4a5cdeabf28064 main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-0  el_before_av_section  avia-builder-el-first  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><main  class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4167'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:24px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:20px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><h1 style=\"text-align: center;margin-bottom: 10px\">Omgaan met Moeilijke Oudere Ouders<\/h1>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-ab2237d847ea5368c4fafb2552bc059b\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-ab2237d847ea5368c4fafb2552bc059b{\nmargin-top:5px;\nmargin-bottom:30px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-ab2237d847ea5368c4fafb2552bc059b .hr-inner{\nwidth:60px;\nborder-color:#7a5a77;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-ab2237d847ea5368c4fafb2552bc059b hr-custom  avia-builder-el-2  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:21px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><p style=\"text-align: center;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9\">\nDe telefoon gaat weer. Je weet al wat er komt. Weer een klacht over de verzorger die je wekenlang hebt gezocht. Weer een beschuldiging dat niemand op bezoek komt, ook al was je er gisteren nog. Weer een gesprek dat je achterlaat met het gevoel dat je een verschrikkelijk kind bent \u00e9n een uitgeputte volwassene, tegelijkertijd.\n<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9;margin-top: 20px\">\nJe moeder was ooit je grootste supporter. Je vader kon alles repareren. Nu vergeet ze de vriendelijkheden die je toont en onthoudt ze alleen de krenking, echt of ingebeeld. Hij bijt van zich af bij suggesties en weigert hulp die hij duidelijk nodig heeft. De mensen die je hebben grootgebracht zijn vreemden geworden die er bekend uitzien, en het verdriet van die transformatie zit zwaar in je borst terwijl er van je verwacht wordt dat je voor hen zorgt.\n<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9;margin-top: 20px\">\nJe houdt van hen. Dat is wat dit zo moeilijk maakt. Het zou makkelijker zijn als je dat niet deed.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-7b813dc004be37f81462e228013e4dd8\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-av_hr-7b813dc004be37f81462e228013e4dd8{\nheight:40px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-7b813dc004be37f81462e228013e4dd8 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-4  el_after_av_textblock  avia-builder-el-last '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/main><!-- close content main element --><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_section-97772950cf8c638dbc5ec51058da163f\">\n.avia-section.av-av_section-97772950cf8c638dbc5ec51058da163f{\nbackground-color:#fafafa;\nbackground-image:unset;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_2'  class='avia-section av-av_section-97772950cf8c638dbc5ec51058da163f main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-5  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4167'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\ncolor:#444;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9\">\nDeze spanning tussen plicht en uitputting, tussen liefde en frustratie, tussen wie ze waren en wie ze zijn geworden\u2014het is niet nieuw. Elke generatie heeft hun ouderen zien veranderen. Elk volwassen kind heeft zich afgevraagd of ze genoeg doen, te veel, of alles verkeerd. 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><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"font-style: italic;line-height: 1.6\">&#8220;Begin elke dag door jezelf te zeggen: Vandaag zal ik inmenging, ondankbaarheid, onbeschaamdheid, ontrouw, kwaadwilligheid en zelfzucht tegenkomen.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-354d2ff22c682bf3afd2c7ebf89dd4aa\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-354d2ff22c682bf3afd2c7ebf89dd4aa{\nmargin-top:10px;\nmargin-bottom:15px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-354d2ff22c682bf3afd2c7ebf89dd4aa .hr-inner{\nwidth:40px;\nborder-color:#b8a888;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-354d2ff22c682bf3afd2c7ebf89dd4aa hr-custom  avia-builder-el-17  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-left hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\ncolor:#666666;\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p><strong style=\"color: #333\">Marcus Aurelius<\/strong> \u2014 Romeins keizer, 121\u2013180 n.Chr.<br \/><em><a href=\"https:\/\/nl.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Marcus_Aurelius\" style=\"color: #666666;text-decoration: none;border-bottom: 1px solid #ddd\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Overpeinzingen<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><\/p><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_half-71e94dd392fda4d4f823618ecabd437f\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_half-71e94dd392fda4d4f823618ecabd437f{\npadding:30px 30px 30px 30px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column 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De keizer die Rome regeerde moest zich nog steeds elke ochtend wapenen voor ontmoetingen die zijn geduld op de proef zouden stellen. Je moeilijke oudere ouder is niet uniek vreselijk\u2014ze zijn menselijk, en mensen worden moeilijk. Dit van tevoren weten lost niet alles op, maar het laat je stoppen met verrast zijn. Elk scherp woord of onredelijke eis wordt bewijs van een universele waarheid in plaats van een persoonlijk falen.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_section-f33d6bd2bbda168074f2e5999a29630c\">\n.avia-section.av-av_section-f33d6bd2bbda168074f2e5999a29630c{\nbackground-color:#e8f0e8;\nbackground-image:unset;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_6'  class='avia-section av-av_section-f33d6bd2bbda168074f2e5999a29630c main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-21  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4167'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:28px;\ncolor:#444;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:24px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:20px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center;font-style: italic;max-width: 580px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.6\">&#8220;We lijden vaker in onze verbeelding dan in werkelijkheid.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-3e7abe8a766177b463d1513949504552\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-3e7abe8a766177b463d1513949504552{\nmargin-top:15px;\nmargin-bottom:15px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-3e7abe8a766177b463d1513949504552 .hr-inner{\nwidth:40px;\nborder-color:#88b8a8;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-3e7abe8a766177b463d1513949504552 hr-custom  avia-builder-el-23  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\ncolor:#666666;\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center\"><strong style=\"color: #333\">Seneca<\/strong> \u2014 <em><a href=\"https:\/\/nl.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Seneca\" style=\"color: #666666;text-decoration: none;border-bottom: 1px solid #ddd\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Brieven aan Lucilius<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-4fc0a7acee588e5f01562da8286a7077\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-av_hr-4fc0a7acee588e5f01562da8286a7077{\nheight:25px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-4fc0a7acee588e5f01562da8286a7077 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-25  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:17px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><p style=\"text-align: left;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9\">Hoeveel tijd besteed je aan het vrezen van het volgende telefoontje? Het repeteren van discussies die nog niet zijn gebeurd? Het doorlopen van worst-case scenario&#8217;s in je hoofd om 2 uur &#8217;s nachts? Seneca zou zeggen dat dit lijden\u2014het ingebeelde soort\u2014vaak zwaarder weegt dan wat er werkelijk gebeurt. Het daadwerkelijke gesprek kan moeilijk zijn. Maar de twintig gesprekken die je vooraf met jezelf had? Die waren optioneel. 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De wrok, de frustratie, het gevoel gevangen te zitten\u2014het is allemaal te begrijpen. Maar de observatie van Buddha raakt de kern van iets dat we vaak vergeten: je ouder ligt waarschijnlijk niet wakker denkend aan hoe ze je vandaag hebben behandeld. Zij houden die gloeiende kool niet vast. Jij wel. En hoewel zij hem misschien aan je hebben gegeven, kun alleen jij beslissen om hem neer te leggen.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_section-aaac0283c0e03c3b1e008b7205c9314c\">\n.avia-section.av-av_section-aaac0283c0e03c3b1e008b7205c9314c{\nbackground-color:#e8e8f4;\nbackground-image:unset;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_9'  class='avia-section av-av_section-aaac0283c0e03c3b1e008b7205c9314c main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-34  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4167'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_half-e1d3efad9c7fb6c518d5664b4b2c4aba\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_half-e1d3efad9c7fb6c518d5664b4b2c4aba{\npadding:30px 30px 30px 30px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_half-e1d3efad9c7fb6c518d5664b4b2c4aba av_one_half  avia-builder-el-35  el_before_av_one_half  avia-builder-el-first  first flex_column_div  '     ><style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:17px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><p style=\"text-align: left;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9\">De kritiek van je oudere vader hoeft je niet te verwoesten. Het vergeten van je bezoek door je moeder hoeft niet te betekenen dat ze niet van je houdt. Epictetus, zelf een voormalige slaaf, begreep machteloosheid beter dan de meesten. Hij wist dat we niet kunnen controleren wat anderen doen of zeggen\u2014maar we controleren absoluut wat die acties voor ons betekenen. De ouder die kwetsende dingen zegt, spreekt vaak vanuit angst, verwarring of pijn. 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Ze vragen je niet om een heilige te worden of te doen alsof moeilijk gedrag geen pijn doet. Ze herinneren je er simpelweg aan dat je vrede de jouwe is om te beschermen. Dat voorbereiding meer helpt dan perfectie. Dat veel van je lijden voortkomt uit wat jij aan de situatie toevoegt, niet de situatie zelf.\n<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9;margin-top: 20px\">\nEn misschien het belangrijkste: dat houden van iemand die moeilijk is om van te houden een van de meest menselijke dingen is die je kunt doen. Het vereist niet dat je het perfect doet. 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class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9\">Wat Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus en Buddha eeuwen geleden al begrepen, wordt nu bevestigd door modern onderzoek. Volgens RIVM (Rijksinstituut voor Volksgezondheid en Milieu) (2024): In Nederland zijn er 4,4 miljoen mantelzorgers. Van de intensieve mantelzorgers is 1 op de 5 overbelast. Mantelzorgers hebben een hoger risico op depressie en angststoornissen De oplossing ligt in wat deze denkers door de tijd heen begrepen: moeilijke oudere ouders vraagt om het aanpakken van de oorzaken, niet alleen de symptomen.<\/p>\n<p class=\"science-sources\" style=\"text-align: center;font-size: 12px;color: #888;margin-top: 30px\">Bronnen: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.rivm.nl\/mantelzorg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">RIVM (Rijksinstituut voor Volksgezondheid en Milieu) (2024)<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div><div id='av_section_13'  class='avia-section av-av_section-b5004e43c8685138fe4a5cdeabf28064 main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-54  el_after_av_section  avia-builder-el-last  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4167'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:13px;\ncolor:#7a5a77;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:12px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:11px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:11px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center;text-transform: uppercase;letter-spacing: 3px;margin-bottom: 0\">Voordat je gaat<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:28px;\ncolor:#7a5a77;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:24px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:20px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><h2 style=\"text-align: center;margin-top: 8px;font-weight: 300;letter-spacing: -0.5px;color: #7a5a77\">Een Moment voor Jou<\/h2>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-adaf532c1a068681e2f162729593ad7d\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-adaf532c1a068681e2f162729593ad7d{\nmargin-top:5px;\nmargin-bottom:25px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-adaf532c1a068681e2f162729593ad7d .hr-inner{\nwidth:40px;\nborder-color:#e8d5e6;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-adaf532c1a068681e2f162729593ad7d hr-custom  avia-builder-el-57  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\ncolor:#444;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9\">\nDe persoon die je heeft grootgebracht is er nog steeds, ergens. En dat geldt ook voor het kind dat ongecompliceerd van hen hield. Beide kunnen naast deze hardere realiteit bestaan: dat zorgen voor moeilijke oudere ouders meer van ons vraagt dan we dachten te hebben. Je faalt niet. Je ontdekt alleen hoe diep je reserves reiken.\n<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;max-width: 700px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.9;margin-top: 20px\">\nAls je dit specifieke gewicht draagt en meer persoonlijke begeleiding wilt van deze wijze stemmen, overweeg dan om <a href=\"\/nl\/adviesrapport-op-maat\/\">InnerCalm+<\/a> te verkennen. 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