{"id":4124,"date":"2026-05-14T08:44:21","date_gmt":"2026-05-14T07:44:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bmgrb.com\/omgaan-met-anderen-vergeven\/"},"modified":"2026-06-03T14:40:57","modified_gmt":"2026-06-03T13:40:57","slug":"omgaan-met-anderen-vergeven","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bmgrb.com\/nl\/omgaan-met-anderen-vergeven\/","title":{"rendered":"Omgaan met Anderen Vergeven"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id='av_section_1'  class='avia-section av-av_section-b5004e43c8685138fe4a5cdeabf28064 main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-0  el_before_av_section  avia-builder-el-first  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><main  class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4124'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:24px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:20px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-9abcadbecf99470cd463350d43634de3 '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><h1 style=\"text-align: center;margin-bottom: 10px\">Omgaan met Anderen Vergeven<\/h1>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-ab2237d847ea5368c4fafb2552bc059b\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-ab2237d847ea5368c4fafb2552bc059b{\nmargin-top:5px;\nmargin-bottom:30px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-ab2237d847ea5368c4fafb2552bc059b .hr-inner{\nwidth:60px;\nborder-color:#7a5a77;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-ab2237d847ea5368c4fafb2552bc059b hr-custom  avia-builder-el-2  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:21px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-560b312a019ab5ec12ec04598837803d '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><p style=\"text-align: center\">Er is iemand die je niet kunt vergeven. Misschien zeg je dat je het hebt gedaan. Misschien geloof je het zelfs sommige dagen. Maar dan komt hun naam ter sprake, of je ziet hun gezicht ergens onverwacht, en dat oude gevoel komt op. De spanning. De hitte. De herinnering aan wat ze deden\u2014of nalieten te doen.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\">Het was misschien jaren geleden. Het was misschien je vader, je vriend, je partner. Iemand die beloofde en die belofte brak. Iemand die je had moeten beschermen en dat niet deed. Iemand die je in de ogen keek en loog.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\">Mensen zullen je vertellen het los te laten. Ze bedoelen het goed. Maar &#8220;loslaten&#8221; klinkt als het laten vallen van iets lichts, als het vrijlaten van een ballon. Dit is geen ballon. Dit is een steen die je zo lang gedragen hebt dat je handen eromheen gegroeid zijn. Je zou niet weten hoe je ze open moest doen als je het probeerde.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\">Dit is wat niemand je vertelt: iemand vergeven betekent niet instemmen met wat ze deden. Het betekent niet verzoenen. Het betekent niet doen alsof de wond niet echt is. Het betekent besluiten dat je deze persoon niet langer toestaat om voor de rest van je leven in je borst te wonen, zonder huur te betalen.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\">Toch\u2014hoe?<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-7b813dc004be37f81462e228013e4dd8\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-av_hr-7b813dc004be37f81462e228013e4dd8{\nheight:40px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-7b813dc004be37f81462e228013e4dd8 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-4  el_after_av_textblock  avia-builder-el-last '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/main><!-- close content main element --><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_section-97772950cf8c638dbc5ec51058da163f\">\n.avia-section.av-av_section-97772950cf8c638dbc5ec51058da163f{\nbackground-color:#fafafa;\nbackground-image:unset;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_2'  class='avia-section av-av_section-97772950cf8c638dbc5ec51058da163f main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-5  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4124'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\ncolor:#444;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-86f66a8dcb9220a2e155e05e82791208 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center\">Deze vraag achtervolgt mensen al zolang er mensen zijn. Elke cultuur, elk tijdperk heeft iemand voortgebracht die vertrouwen bedroog, en iemand anders die moest uitzoeken wat te doen met de nasleep. De woede die je &#8217;s nachts wakker houdt? Marcus Aurelius voelde het. De bitterheid die alles kleurt? Seneca kende het goed.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\">De denkers hieronder bieden geen makkelijke antwoorden. 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class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center\">Vier stemmen. Een spirituele leraar die lijden zag als de menselijke conditie. Een mystieke dichter die pijn transformeerde in po\u00ebzie. Een Sto\u00efcijnse staatsman die verbannen werd door de keizer die hij diende. En een voormalige slaaf die een van de grote filosofen uit de geschiedenis werd. Verschillende paden naar dezelfde vraag: wat doen we met degenen die ons gewond hebben?<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-c1b029bf92acaec514d5d4410a999831\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-av_hr-c1b029bf92acaec514d5d4410a999831{\nheight:30px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-c1b029bf92acaec514d5d4410a999831 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-13  el_after_av_textblock  avia-builder-el-last '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div><div id='av_section_5'  class='avia-section av-av_section-b5004e43c8685138fe4a5cdeabf28064 main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-14  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4124'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:28px;\ncolor:#444;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:24px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:20px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center;font-style: italic;max-width: 580px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.6\">&#8220;Vasthouden aan woede is als het grijpen van een gloeiende kool met de bedoeling deze naar iemand anders te gooien; jij bent degene die verbrand wordt.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-580511df894dbc948b465308948f7a73\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-580511df894dbc948b465308948f7a73{\nmargin-top:15px;\nmargin-bottom:15px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-580511df894dbc948b465308948f7a73 .hr-inner{\nwidth:40px;\nborder-color:#7a5a77;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-580511df894dbc948b465308948f7a73 hr-custom  avia-builder-el-16  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\ncolor:#666666;\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center\"><strong style=\"color: #333\">Buddha<\/strong> \u2014 <em><a href=\"https:\/\/nl.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Buddha\" style=\"color: #666666;text-decoration: none;border-bottom: 1px solid #ddd\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Dhammapada<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-4fc0a7acee588e5f01562da8286a7077\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-av_hr-4fc0a7acee588e5f01562da8286a7077{\nheight:25px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-4fc0a7acee588e5f01562da8286a7077 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-18  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:17px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><p>Het beeld van de Buddha is met reden visceraal. Je hebt het gevoel dat woede een wapen is\u2014iets dat je vasthoudt, klaar om te slingeren naar de persoon die je pijn deed. Maar kijk naar je handen. Jij bent degene die bloedt. Jij bent degene wiens huid brandt. De persoon die je onrecht deed slaapt misschien vannacht vredig. Ondertussen ben jij wakker, de verwonding herhalend. Vergeving is in dit licht geen geschenk aan hen. Het is eerste hulp voor jezelf.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_section-ffd43f78c496cb947414f7a9d6ba7289\">\n.avia-section.av-av_section-ffd43f78c496cb947414f7a9d6ba7289{\nbackground-color:#faf8fa;\nbackground-image:unset;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_6'  class='avia-section av-av_section-ffd43f78c496cb947414f7a9d6ba7289 main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-20  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4124'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_half-e1d3efad9c7fb6c518d5664b4b2c4aba\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_half-e1d3efad9c7fb6c518d5664b4b2c4aba{\npadding:30px 30px 30px 30px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_half-e1d3efad9c7fb6c518d5664b4b2c4aba av_one_half  avia-builder-el-21  el_before_av_one_half  avia-builder-el-first  first flex_column_div  '     ><style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:26px;\ncolor:#7a5a77;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:22px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:20px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"font-style: italic;line-height: 1.6\">&#8220;Wees als de zon voor genade en mededogen. Wees als de nacht om de fouten van anderen te bedekken. Wees als stromend water voor vrijgevigheid. Wees als de dood voor woede en drift. Wees als de aarde voor bescheidenheid. Verschijn zoals je bent, of wees zoals je verschijnt.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-b7c2617e6807fbdd348ed2885b9eff24\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-b7c2617e6807fbdd348ed2885b9eff24{\nmargin-top:10px;\nmargin-bottom:15px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-b7c2617e6807fbdd348ed2885b9eff24 .hr-inner{\nwidth:40px;\nborder-color:#9a7a97;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-b7c2617e6807fbdd348ed2885b9eff24 hr-custom  avia-builder-el-23  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-left hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\ncolor:#666666;\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p><strong style=\"color: #333\">Rumi<\/strong> \u2014 13e eeuw<br \/><em><a href=\"https:\/\/nl.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Rumi\" style=\"color: #666666;text-decoration: none;border-bottom: 1px solid #ddd\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Masnavi<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><\/p><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_half-71e94dd392fda4d4f823618ecabd437f\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_half-71e94dd392fda4d4f823618ecabd437f{\npadding:30px 30px 30px 30px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_half-71e94dd392fda4d4f823618ecabd437f av_one_half  avia-builder-el-25  el_after_av_one_half  avia-builder-el-last  flex_column_div  '     ><style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:17px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><p>Rumi vraagt iets moeilijkers dan vergeving\u2014hij vraagt ons om groter te worden dan onze wonden. Als de zon, die niet kiest wie haar warmte ontvangt. Als water, dat om obstakels heen stroomt in plaats van er eeuwig tegenaan te beuken. Dit is geen passiviteit. Het is een soort radicale expansie. De zon vergeeft de aarde niet dat ze donker is. Ze schijnt gewoon. Wat zou het betekenen voor jou om gewoon te schijnen?<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_section-a1ca316eff66f352965d6f689778499f\">\n.avia-section.av-av_section-a1ca316eff66f352965d6f689778499f .av-parallax .av-parallax-inner{\nbackground-repeat:no-repeat;\nbackground-image:url(https:\/\/bmgrb.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/zen-moodboard-decorative-nl.png);\nbackground-position:50% 50%;\nbackground-attachment:scroll;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_7'  class='avia-section av-av_section-a1ca316eff66f352965d6f689778499f main_color avia-section-no-padding avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-27  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-full-stretch av-parallax-section avia-bg-style-parallax av-minimum-height av-minimum-height-custom av-height-custom  container_wrap fullsize'  data-section-bg-repeat='stretch' data-av_minimum_height_px='220'><div class='av-parallax' data-avia-parallax-ratio='0.3' ><div class='av-parallax-inner main_color avia-full-stretch'><\/div><\/div><div class='container av-section-cont-open' style='height:220px'><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4124'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div><div id='av_section_8'  class='avia-section av-av_section-b5004e43c8685138fe4a5cdeabf28064 main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-28  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4124'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:28px;\ncolor:#444;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:24px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:20px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-58b7ae53f6e9e17f8536ca21cb9be0df '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center;font-style: italic;max-width: 580px;margin: 0 auto;line-height: 1.6\">&#8220;De beste remedie tegen woede is uitstel. Vraag woede eerst deze gunst, niet om de overtreding te vergeven, maar om erover te oordelen. Als het uitstelt, zal het tot een einde komen. Probeer het niet in \u00e9\u00e9n keer te verpletteren. Stap voor stap aangevallen, zal het overwonnen worden.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-580511df894dbc948b465308948f7a73\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-580511df894dbc948b465308948f7a73{\nmargin-top:15px;\nmargin-bottom:15px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-580511df894dbc948b465308948f7a73 .hr-inner{\nwidth:40px;\nborder-color:#7a5a77;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-580511df894dbc948b465308948f7a73 hr-custom  avia-builder-el-30  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\ncolor:#666666;\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center\"><strong style=\"color: #333\">Seneca<\/strong> \u2014 <em><a href=\"https:\/\/nl.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Seneca\" style=\"color: #666666;text-decoration: none;border-bottom: 1px solid #ddd\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Over woede<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-4fc0a7acee588e5f01562da8286a7077\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-av_hr-4fc0a7acee588e5f01562da8286a7077{\nheight:25px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-4fc0a7acee588e5f01562da8286a7077 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-32  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:17px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><p>Seneca, altijd praktisch, vraagt je niet om je woede te onderdrukken. Hij vraagt je om het te vertragen. Stel oordeel uit. Geef het tijd om te transformeren van een wilde brand naar iets dat je kunt onderzoeken. De meeste woede, wanneer we er eindelijk duidelijk naar kijken, is een mengsel van pijn en angst gekleed in agressieve kleding. Het uitstel is geen zwakte. Het is strategie. Het is erkennen dat razernij een verschrikkelijke adviseur is.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_section-0133e2d454a5bab9aaf39329f88c5525\">\n.avia-section.av-av_section-0133e2d454a5bab9aaf39329f88c5525{\nbackground-color:#f5f2f5;\nbackground-image:unset;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_9'  class='avia-section av-av_section-0133e2d454a5bab9aaf39329f88c5525 main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-34  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4124'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_half-e1d3efad9c7fb6c518d5664b4b2c4aba\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_half-e1d3efad9c7fb6c518d5664b4b2c4aba{\npadding:30px 30px 30px 30px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_half-e1d3efad9c7fb6c518d5664b4b2c4aba av_one_half  avia-builder-el-35  el_before_av_one_half  avia-builder-el-first  first flex_column_div  '     ><style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:17px;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-8c80adfb164172d3da3285c6597b9186 '  ><div class='avia_textblock' ><p>Epictetus werd geboren als slaaf. Als iemand reden had om wrok te koesteren, was hij het. Toch ontwikkelde hij een filosofie gecentreerd rond wat we beheersen\u2014en de acties van een ander persoon, concludeerde hij, zijn nooit onder onze controle. Wat wel? Onze reactie. Onze interpretatie. Het verhaal dat we onszelf vertellen over wat er gebeurde. Dit verontschuldigt geen wandaden. Maar het geeft de macht terug aan jou. Je kunt niet veranderen wat ze deden. Je kunt veranderen wat het voor jou betekent.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_half-71e94dd392fda4d4f823618ecabd437f\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_half-71e94dd392fda4d4f823618ecabd437f{\npadding:30px 30px 30px 30px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_half-71e94dd392fda4d4f823618ecabd437f av_one_half  avia-builder-el-37  el_after_av_one_half  avia-builder-el-last  flex_column_div  '     ><style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:26px;\ncolor:#7a5a77;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:22px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:20px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-975b59315235e9b5be53c05368e2a524 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"font-style: italic;line-height: 1.6\">&#8220;Het zijn niet de dingen die ons verontrusten, maar onze oordelen over dingen. Wanneer iemand ons irriteert, is het onze eigen mening die ons irriteert. Geef daarom noch God noch mens de schuld.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-b7c2617e6807fbdd348ed2885b9eff24\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-b7c2617e6807fbdd348ed2885b9eff24{\nmargin-top:10px;\nmargin-bottom:15px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-b7c2617e6807fbdd348ed2885b9eff24 .hr-inner{\nwidth:40px;\nborder-color:#9a7a97;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-b7c2617e6807fbdd348ed2885b9eff24 hr-custom  avia-builder-el-39  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-left hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\ncolor:#666666;\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-b11be773922ca59e48e7604b08c4258a '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p><strong style=\"color: #333\">Epictetus<\/strong> \u2014 50 \u2013 135 n.Chr.<br \/><em><a href=\"https:\/\/nl.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Epictetus\" style=\"color: #666666;text-decoration: none;border-bottom: 1px solid #ddd\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Enchiridion<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><\/p><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_section-78aa1ba9daae3656e5b297d3959ec405\">\n.avia-section.av-av_section-78aa1ba9daae3656e5b297d3959ec405{\nbackground-color:#f9f5f9;\nbackground-image:unset;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_10'  class='avia-section av-av_section-78aa1ba9daae3656e5b297d3959ec405 main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-41  el_after_av_section  el_before_av_section  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div 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Buddha vraagt: wie wordt er echt verbrand door deze woede? Rumi suggereert dat we groter kunnen worden dan de wond. Seneca biedt een praktisch hulpmiddel: uitstellen, onderzoeken, laat razernij transformeren in iets bruikbaars. Epictetus herinnert ons eraan dat we niet kunnen beheersen wat ons aangedaan is, alleen onze reactie.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\">Geen van hen zegt dat vergeving makkelijk is. Geen van hen zegt dat de persoon die je pijn deed het verdient. Dat is niet het punt. Het punt is dat jij het verdient om de gloeiende kool neer te leggen. Jij verdient het om te stoppen met leven in het moment waarop je onrecht werd aangedaan. 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Volgens Trimbos-instituut (2024): Angststoornis is de meest voorkomende psychische aandoening in Nederland, met een 12-maands prevalentie van 15% van de volwassen bevolking De oplossing ligt in wat deze denkers door de tijd heen begrepen: anderen vergeven vraagt om het aanpakken van de oorzaken, niet alleen de symptomen.<\/p>\n<p class=\"science-sources\" style=\"text-align: center;font-size: 12px;color: #888;margin-top: 30px\">Bronnen: <a href=\"https:\/\/cijfers.trimbos.nl\/nemesis\/angst\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Trimbos-instituut (2024)<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><!-- close content main div --><\/div><\/div><div id='av_section_13'  class='avia-section av-av_section-b5004e43c8685138fe4a5cdeabf28064 main_color avia-section-huge avia-no-shadow  avia-builder-el-54  el_after_av_section  avia-builder-el-last  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><div class='template-page content  av-content-full alpha units'><div class='post-entry post-entry-type-page post-entry-4124'><div class='entry-content-wrapper clearfix'>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:13px;\ncolor:#7a5a77;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:12px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:11px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:11px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-d6f0f84035d7c1ad85c29b40616b4b79 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center;text-transform: uppercase;letter-spacing: 3px;margin-bottom: 0\">Voordat je gaat<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:28px;\ncolor:#7a5a77;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:24px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:20px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-e843f0f016b5609ca83e787903490788 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><h2 style=\"text-align: center;margin-top: 8px;font-weight: 300;letter-spacing: -0.5px;color: #7a5a77\">Een Moment voor Jou<\/h2>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-adaf532c1a068681e2f162729593ad7d\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-adaf532c1a068681e2f162729593ad7d{\nmargin-top:5px;\nmargin-bottom:25px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-adaf532c1a068681e2f162729593ad7d .hr-inner{\nwidth:40px;\nborder-color:#e8d5e6;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-adaf532c1a068681e2f162729593ad7d hr-custom  avia-builder-el-57  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-no'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:18px;\ncolor:#444;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 989px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) and (max-width: 767px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n}\n\n@media only screen and (max-width: 479px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:14px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-05383c755b07bce1963065badd385454 '  ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color' ><p style=\"text-align: center\">Misschien vergeef je vandaag niet. 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